What about those wedding vows?

When you said those vows, if you are married, did you really listen to them?  Did you think about them before you actually got married?  I probably  did not have a clue....well, no probably, I was in lust and just wanted some security.  I guess I thought I would get married and hoped that this time it would work out. (It  was the second time around) and if it didn't well, I guess I would just wing it.  Luckily,( really, luck had nothing to do with it) sometime around our 4th or 5th year of marriage we were saved and God sent a wonderful pastor and his wife that taught us about authority and family and marriage.  It was a life saver for us.  Since that time, I have watched marriages fall by the wayside, marriages that I thought were strong.   What people don't want to hear on the days before the big day is that there will be days that they will WANT to get a divorce, the thought of just walking out the door will seem like a wonderful idea.  But in reality, that will not solve the problems.  I told my son before he got married, there will come a time that you will want to divorce his precious wife to be and it will seem like the easiest way to fix things.  "Oh, mom, I love her so much, I cannot imagine anything that would make me feel that way."  Well, the rough days have come and gone, but fortunately they really do love each other and I do see a silver and probably a golden anniversary in their future.  But there will be more rough days.  My husband and I have been married almost 30 years and we still have some tough days, weeks etc.  I really thought when we got this age and this smart it would all be easy.  Here's a tip....... If you are not walking really close with Jesus and keeping your relationship in line with your spouse as well as with Jesus, you will continue to have  MAJOR problems.  No matter how many marriage conferences you go to, how many books you buy, how many videos you watch, how many friends you get advice from,......the only answer is to have a right relationship with Jesus and with your spouse.   I am working on a study about wives being submissive (well, that will shut down most of you), but I hope you stay with me and keep watching for the good stuff to come.   Have a great day!